Is what mom is doing right and fair?

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  • I'm 13, mom makes me wear a bodysuit, that undergarment that covers all your torso, back and and breasts and clips at your crotch. I hate, it's uncomfortable, makes me sweat, none of my friends wears that thing. But mom says it's for my best, it's good for my body and also for modesty. She says every mom should be like her, care about her daughters and preserve moral values. She doesnt back off, once I tried to rebel but got punished, grounded, wearing that thing, of course, and had to give in. I know mom is sure its for my best she's caring and loving, but those body suits really suck. One of them, that I wear twice a week, even covers even part of my tighs. I'd like to know if this can be considered child abuse. I won' report my mom, even if I have to be in that thing, I love her. But how can she get out of those bodysuits? I don't think she'll back off. Should I rebel, disobey, take it off when she's not at home?
    By the way, iwe are Catholic but its not for religion reasons. I'm thin, I swim,, it's just a mom's thing. She wears one too, my grandma made her wear one when she was a teen. She didn't like but today she thinks her mom was right. I have to wear one all day long, except to sleep and take a shower.
    A bodysuit is a thing like this in thhis Herroom site, a online underwear store where mom usualy buys undewear.

    http://www.herroom.com/Miraclesuit-2714-...


  • That really sucks! I wouldn't disobey, but I would sit down and talk with your mom about it. Make sure she gets that you don't want to wear it, tell her you don't understand why you have to wear it and see where that gets you otherwise youre only 13 so give it a couple years say 16 and I think your old enough to decide what to wear and not wear. good luck


  • omg i see that as abuse, but i can see where your mum is coming from just because her mum made her wear one it still doesn't give her the right to make you wear one. You should definitely rebel in someway make her know that you do not want to wear that thing and you feel uncomfortable. I mean take it off when shes not around or just cut it into pieces i mean that's what ill do! poor little thing, if your mum really cares about you, she should understand the fact that you hate wearing a body suit!


  • i would talk to her and tell her u love and can be modest without a body suit. if that does not work i would have to say ur only choice is to rebel.


  • *I understand where you're coming from. It's uncomfortable, no one else that you know has to wear one.

    Rebelling is not the answer!

    My suggestion would be to talk to your mom again, explain that you do not mind being modest, but that body suit is really uncomfortable. Try to get her to go down to just a girdle first, show her that you are responsible and do not give her any reasons not to trust you. Maybe if she sees that you understand how to be modest she may ease up a bit.

    Try talking to your dad or another trusted adult that knows you both and see if they can offer advice or talk to you mom on your behalf. I'm sure your mother only wants the best and would not do anything to hurt you.

    Running away is NOT the answer, that will create distrust and make things worse. You are only 13, as you get older and sees the responsible young lady she raised, she will probably not care about the body suit. God bless.*


  • You're 13, listen to your mom.


  • dont wear it
    is she really going to force it on you at 13
    and if it doesnt bother you enough that you would report her if she did force it on you then it cant be that bad

    but seriously tell her to piss off


  • this is what i think.you dont have to wear one if you dont want to or if you dont need it.and the whole reason for it is to contain body fat.i know you dont need it.your mom should be ashamed of already making doing some to your body that you dont want to.tv already does that.and when you get much older and you feel like not wearing it you going to feel like you need it.so i say just burn them and all the rest of them until she gets the message


  • I think your mom is doing what she thinks is best. Every mother will differ in the way that they raise their children just so long as they protect their children in whatever way they know how to.

    I know you hate to wear it, but I know there can be other uses for wearing that kind of underwear. It shows a conservative quality about a young lady, and sometimes, that kind of underwear can help shape and sculpt a body into a womanly figure.

    To make you wear it despite the fact that you don't want to, is not considered child abuse. My advice to you would be to wear it as she asks you to because it is the respectful and the right thing to do. I think you should also kindly tell her you understand her reasons for making you wear it, but at the same time, tell her as politely as you can how it makes you feel and what it does to you like making you sweat and feel very uncomfortable. That way you are communicating to her how it makes you feel, but you are also respecting her wishes and doing as you are asked.

    Give it some time. You are young at 13, and you should listen and do what your mother asks within reason. As you grow older and if you are still wearing that underwear, you should be allowed to wear what you like but still respect your mother's wishes. You shouldn't have to wear what you don't want to, but your mother is doing only what she grew up thinking was right.

    You should not rebel, disobey, or take it off when she's not home because that will only cause more trouble. The key here is to communicate and tell her how you feel without being disrespectful of her wishes. She will respect you for your maturity in doing so. I wish you the best of luck!


  • Goll that sucks but listen to your mom and don't complain for at least 45 days then go to her again


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