Posted in xn--kfs74mzzid01b.com edit by mike on January 7th, 2009
It bugs me when people say "my kid" instead of my child/son/daughter. Sounds so impersonal and generic. I hear it a lot though. At the same time, I do say "my kids" instead of "my children". Am I being weird or do other people feel this way. I've never heard anyone else in or outside of here mention it, and I am definitely different so it could just be me. But if it's not, I'd like to know I'm not crazy.
I have children, as do my siblings. For us it is just the expression we use.
Kid to me makes me think of a baby goat!, oh well, each to their own.If you are hearing this just on this site, it's probably because its just quicker to type my kid, instead of saying my child or daughter or whatnot.
Outside in the real world, I will occassionally say "my kids". Never "my children", and if I'm talking about them individually, then I use their names, or if they don't know my kids, then I'll say "my oldest" or "my youngest". See I just used "my kids", because I am talking about them in general.That bugs me too. I don't take it as personally but I say my son or my child.I think it really depends on the situation you are in as how that would be stated. You are not "weird or crazy". My ex sister-in-law was never a formal talking kind of person. When her and my brother were divorcing and we all had to go to court she would say... "the children". Coming from her it did not sound right otherwise she would say... "the kids" or something else I shouldn't type on here. To be proper you should say "child or children or son or daughter". Actually for the most part these days I say "my boys" or "my two lil guys". That too may not be right or proper but.. I think it just depends on what you feel comfortable with. I would say just don't over obsess with it. You are fine, just remember as much as someone saying "the kids" bothers you there may be someone out there that is really bothered by saying "the children". Good luck to you is your search for an answer.That annoys the heck out of me! I would think of it the same way as you - to say "my kid" sounds so impersonal, but if you have more than 1 it sounds fine to say "my kids". My ex (my kid's father - lol), always talks that way and it drives me nuts. Just goes to show what kind of guy he is, in my opinion. He used to call and say "when can I come see my kid?" as opposed to actually using her name. Hence just one reason he is my ex now...I hate the term "kid"...that's a baby goat!!!! I always say child or children....erks me to no end...shows ignoranceI say, "my kids" when referring to both, but it sounds redneck, to me to say "my kid." Don't slam me people- it's just my opinion!
I hear people say it at the school, "Well, my kid said bla bla bla." I always say "My Daughter, _____, was......"Yeah, Mozz that bothers me too. I say "my kids" when it's plural...but I don't like the "my KID" thing. Most of the time I get to say "my boys" because that's all I have!!!! what is wrong with kid. A baby goat is a lovely animal.
I have 2 children and I always refer to them as the girls or my youngest or my eldest. But nothing wrong with kids. I could think of worse things to call them.I feel the same way that you do. It seems almost disrespectful to say "Yeah my kid did this." Instead of saying "Yeah my daughter did this." It could come off as being nonchalant and not really giving a rip about your child to some people. You're not crazy... or maybe we both are, lol.what annoys me how ppl ask us to name their baby??? seriously are ppl that incapable to name their own child but ask strangers lol
that's what irritates me so muchHm..Funny you should mention this.
I always say my son.
Except with my dad, we have a very great relationship, and idk now that I tihnk of it, I have NEVER heard him use the term..My son/daughter.
He always says "I got the kid with me". usually referring to my little 6 year old brother.
I have never felt offense or thought anything of it, because I know my dad so well, and can clearly hear the tone in his voice and its always..nice.
When we talk on the phone he will always throw in..So wheres your kid right now?
Whats your kid doing now?
You bringing the kid?
LOL-its kinda funny now that I think of it.
My dad is the furthest thing from being emotional..I wonder if that's the reason, or maybe thats what he learned. I shall ask him now.
But no It doesnt bother me. Especially since my dad uses the term, and I KNOW he loves us.And Im very close with him. So I couldnt possibly try and derive a submeaning to the term like some of you have mentioned.
And my father IS very educated, and mature.I guess it's better than saying "my brat" LOL
no but seriously it doesn't "bother" me but I do take notice when people do that and I hate to say it but it does give me the impression that the person is immature, or uneducated.No, it doesn't bother me. I don't even think about it. No offense, but there are bigger issues out there.This just may be me I am not a parent or anywhere near one, but i wouldn't say that. It makes them feel like you forgot their name maybe and it's really impersonal like you said
No, your not being wierd. I don't think i have ever referred to my daughter as my kid, if i did, it didn't notice.
But the worst that bugs me, and i caught myself typing it in one of my answers, my bad, but when pple refer to their unborn child as "it". The baby is not an it, its a baby. So i try to proof read everything i type, but sometimes, i know, i've typed it and forgot to correct it.Iā ve said that before and I donā t see it as being impersonal. But it also depends on how you say it.
I typically say my little man. But there are times when Iā ve said, ā Thatā s my kid over thereā . I donā t see anything wrong with it. But I also think thereā s a fine line where it could be disrespectful if you use it a certain way when referring to someone ELSEā S child.
That, I would never do!
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Just out of curiosity, are those of you that find it offensive or disrespectful from the South? Iā m wondering if where you live, where you were raised and how old you are has anything to do with this?
Iā m 26 yrs old, I grew up in New Englandā ¦weā re casual and whatever over there. Whereas if you were older, maybe youā d be leaning more towards those respectable words. Or if you lived in the South, obviously you are to use ā properā speaking.
Not sure if it plays and role, just figured Iā d throw it out there.
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LOL. This is the funniest thing Iā ve ever seen. People are ā offendedā if I call my own child that I gave birth to, ā MY kidā ? How the heck does that work? What I say about my OWN child is my business. As long as Iā m not disrespectful to YOUR child, then why do you care?
Gosh people, issues much?my grandmother would never let us use the word kid the actual meaning is young goat so i have to agree its not uses properly
kid - definition of kid by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia.
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/kidI use *kids* to describe my boys.
It doesn't bother me at all. If I am referring to one I tend to use their name, I don't refer to them as one kid. To me, kid means multiple children. It's just shortened.
I tend to use Boys to describe, my 5. Well they are all boys.This bothers me, too. It's like they are impersonalizing their own child.
The latest person to say this was Levi, the father of Sarah Palin's soon-to-be-grandchild. He said that he was going to take his kid everywhere with him.
Ha ha. I bet all the mothers reading that just laughed and laughed and laughed.
I wish the young couple well, I really do, but I think young Levi is in for a rude shock.
Having said all that, I will say 'my kids' easily but would never dream of saying 'my kid.' Isn't that funny?!I've never really thought about it. I sometimes call my son my kiddo. I certainly don't mean it to sound impersonal. Different strokes, I guess.I never really say either coming from Birmingham in the UK i tend to say 'My Kylie' or 'My Thomas' i never really said that or my child either, i think it depends where the person his from, might be just 'their way'To be honest I have never heard anyone refer to their children as "their kid" like the other poster it reminds me of a baby goat, so not the sort of thing I would say.
But not weird - each to their own.Once in a blue moon I will say it, but I was always actually taught not to. My dad once told me that a kid is a baby goat, so it weirded me out.No, it does not bother me at all. What does bother me is having to be politically correct when informally mentioning something to do with my child (kid).
**It is my humble opinion that some people are too critical. Lighten up people.
LOL, thanks Mozz! No hard feelings ;Pi never say my "kid" either though i do say my "kids". never looked at it in any other way, then it just didnt sound right to me... i always say my daughter, or my oldest/youngest.
i dont think you are weird for this, to each their own right.
I do have a time or two, that i have said "gotta get the kid from school", or something, but its just a way of saying it, dosnt mean its impersonal or anything.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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