Posted in xn--kfs74mzzid01b.com edit by admin on November 22nd, 2008
im having some sleep problems with my 13 month old other people say to just let her cry but i cant do that i know her different cry's and know when she is in distress but sometimes when i put her to bed she just shouts and crys then when i bring her down she is fine not a thing wrong with her. i never leave her to cry for more that 10 min but is that wrong of me to do?Maybe she has an ear infection and it hurts when she lays down.
Or she is hungry.
Try and comfort her.
Yes, when they are cared for and all their needs met and I have checked on them, I let them cry a bit. Longer than 10 minutes.
Your daughter has learned that it brings you to her and she gets out of bed. You can either continue that or end it. It's up to you. You have choices to make - there are plenty of methods to encourage her to go to sleep on her own. It depends on what your comfort level and goal is. But if you do not do anything to deter the behavior, then it will continue. No, I don't let my son cry. When he cries he needs something and it's my job to find out what it is and fix it. I cannot ignore him when he cries.
I also cannot tell you how to parent your child. You said you can't let her cry and then you said you do so for at least 10 minutes. Is it wrong of you? In my PERSONAL opinion, yes, it is. But like I said I cannot tell you how to parent your child, that is completely up to you.You know best. If you feel uncomfortable to let your Child cry than go comfort her!
If you need to let her cry than let her cry. We had to let my very needy daughter cry for a week or so then it got better. Hang in there. You'll figure out what is best for your daughter and for you! No. simple as thatIt depends on what kind of cry it is. I never use to let my baby cry, but at around 11 months he started to cry in protest to some of his naps. These were times that I knew he was tired and needed a nap. I found that holding him, as I used to only made him cry harder and longer, but if I let him cry (it really seemed more like he was yelling at me) in his crib he would settle in a minute or so. If he doesn't settle, I go lay down with him.Is it when you're putting her to nap or bedtime when she cries? Sometimes they're not tired and are not ready to go to bed. Mine does that, and so I play with her until she gives me signs that she's tired, and then I put her to bed for a nap. We established a bedtime routine early on and she's been sleeping in her room in her crib when she was less than a week old because she didn't like the bassinet at all.
I don't think it's wrong to let a 13-month old "cry it out" from time to time. They have to learn somehow! i weaned my son from the binki at 4 months.. and the most he cried was like 12 minutesYes. I've put him in his bed & let him go to sleep on his own since he was about 8mo old. He WILL NOT go to sleep if we rock him or lay down with him. The ONLY way he goes to sleep is if he is by himself. Sometimes he doesn't cry. Sometimes he cries for 5 min. I draw the line at 15 minutes. If he's cried that long, I go get him calm him down, and start over again. He is now in a toddler bed (has been for 6mo). He can get out of bed and come out to the living room where we are if he wants. And he has never been punished for getting out of bed. He rarely does this though. He knows that he's tired & needs to go to sleep. So he cries for a few minutes then cuddles up with his stuffed animals & goes to sleep.Never. I will not leave a baby alone in a room to GIVE UP - that is what happens when a baby is left to cry in order to "train" them to sleep.
Cuddle, rock, nurse, bottle, sing, love that baby to sleep. Parenting is a 24 hour job. You will not spoil her, you will not start a bad habit, you are being a FANTASTIC mom not to let that baby cry. I mean, gawd forbid your baby know you're there for them!
At some point in our culture, the physical and emotional need for LOVE was put on the back burner - some people no longer look at that as reason to take care of a crying baby. This is one of the biggest tragedies ever.
Good for you for knowing it doesn't feel right.I agree with Kat Mom of 4.
